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Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Business Training Party

I sort of fell off the grid! I've been really busy trying to get Bedtime By Tink off the ground. Got a couple big orders in this past week, but finances are so tight that I have to figure out how to come up with the money to get the materials to make the orders. But once I get them, finish them and get paid, I'll have enough in the bank to start getting myself caught up! :)

As I'm looking online for helpful resources, I stumbled across Therese Skelly, a Money & Mindset Mentor and Business Catalyst. She is a business coach and will help folks that need it to improve their businesses. She is actually having a free 2 hour training seminar January 23, 2014 here. The event starts at 9 am PST, 10 am MST, 11 am CST, 12 pm EST.

I will be attending. Can I count you in as well?





From the Therese Skelly website:

"Attention: Freedom-seeking business owners who want
to build a business on your own terms…
Come Party with Me in a Live Google+ Hangout!

Join me on January 23rd at 9am Pacific for a totally free live party on a G+ hangout. I’m celebrating the launch of my new website with fun, games, prizes, giveaways, and free training that will help you blast your business to the next level.
You’ll see me live, on camera,
teaching the four pillars of Keys to Creating a Business You Love

What’s a hangout party, you ask? If you’ve never been to a G+ hangout, it’s kind of like a webinar, but instead of only seeing slides you’ll be able to see ME (and my guests). We’ve also got a cool setup that allows you to chat live with all the participants, network, and ask questions during the event.

Attention: Freedom-seeking business owners who want
to build a business on your own terms…
Come Party with Me in a Live Google+ Hangout!

Join me on January 23rd at 9am Pacific for a totally free live party on a G+ hangout. I’m celebrating the launch of my new website with fun, games, prizes, giveaways, and free training that will help you blast your business to the next level.
You’ll see me live, on camera,
teaching the four pillars of Keys to Creating a Business You Love

What’s a hangout party, you ask? If you’ve never been to a G+ hangout, it’s kind of like a webinar, but instead of only seeing slides you’ll be able to see ME (and my guests). We’ve also got a cool setup that allows you to chat live with all the participants, network, and ask questions during the event.

The secret to business success? I’ll share with you the four pillars you must have to create a business you’ll LOVE (hint: it’s about money, value, messaging and more). And to help you figure out how these pillars work in your own business, my clients and friends will be joining me virtually to share their stories and experiences for you to learn from.

We’ll be playing games (ready for a scavenger hunt?), taking networking breaks (yep, self promo is cool here, we want to know about you!), and just having FUN in this celebration.

You’ll learn:
How your mindset can make or break your biz
Why your income is capped (and what you can do about it)
What it REALLY takes to get the RIGHT kind of visibility
The role of personality in your marketing
The ‘deal breaking’ things you don’t want to do when having prospect conversations

We’ll be on for 2 hours, so you can come for all or part of the conversation. But in order to WIN some awesome prizes, you need to be there live!

Oh… and I’ve got some surprises up my sleeve… including giveaways and prizes! You’ve got to be present to win, so get on the list and put it on your calendar right now."

http://www.happyinbusiness.com/party/

Friday, January 17, 2014

Self Interview on Business

I decided to do a few business related posts. I wrote this post in the form of an interview with myself done by an outside source. Hopefully someone will benefit from my advice. Please let me know if you do!!!

Sometimes running a creative business on your own can be a bit overwhelming! And there are times when you just want to give up. One crafter turned her hobby into a budding small business. Let’s see how she did it!!!!

Tink of Bedtime By Tink began her bedtime crafting business as a hobby. She slowly built it up from there into the current fledgling business that it is. Here, she shares some insights into what she feels has made her business a success.

Tink is based in Indiana, where she hand stitches pillows, blankets, and more at Bedtime By Tink (BBT). Surrounded by a blanket obsessed family her whole life, the want for a special gift idea gave her the idea for BBT. In between being a single mom of two, being enrolled in college, and generally trying to navigate through life, she has managed to build a growing business.


What one thing did you have in mind when starting out?

I didn’t really have anything in mind. I began making blankets as gifts for family members; friends got interested and offered to buy items from me. I kind of let things lag there for a couple years. When I got pregnant this last time, I decided to make some items for my son. J Then after I lost my job, I decided to really put work into making a go of this business so that I didn’t have to worry about job security or being able to take care of my kids. Now it’s a matter of making money doing things I love.


What three things do you think make you successful?

My tenacity to keep going even when things may not seem to be going the way I originally intended! My ability to keep creating items people are interested in. I am still doing what I love and not just in it for the money.


Did you take a business course before starting up your business?

I was a business major in my local community college for 4 years before I started my business in a serious manner. Unfortunately, I dropped out and switched majors 15 classes away from earning my degree. L

What are your top three business tips?

Network!!!! Work hard!!! Never stop creating!!!!

What’s the best piece of creative advice you have ever been given?

Thursday, January 16, 2014

Maintaining Your Business Image on Facebook

I decided to do a few business related posts. Hopefully someone will benefit from my advice. Please let me know if you do!!!

I admin for a page called Hike Those Likes America. And on HTLA, we do our best to try to help others promote their pages and be seen. A lot of hikers (as we call the participants on there) are concerned about increasing how many “likes” they get on their page instead of networking with other hikers. Please keep in mind, LIKES will not get you sales. You can have 50,000 likes and never sell a thing. You can have 500 and sell every day. Likes are merely folks who click on a button. Some of them may actually follow your page, a large portion of them will not. The key is to be SEEN. And how do you do that? You do that by participating in our hikes and by commenting on statuses and pictures of others, as well as by sharing your page (part of what is known as your business brand) on your personal profile as well as on HTLA.


Every business that exists has something called a business image. A business image is not something invented by a public relations firm: It's a reflection of what you do and how you do it. Marketing your business brand means running a first-rate business and letting people know about it. Every action your company takes sends a marketing message. (http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/business-image-build-and-market-29721.html) Remember to be courteous when you are posting or leaving comments on your business page. And your personal page as well, for that matter. You never know who will put two and two together and come up with your business. If you honestly have a problem with something or someone or don’t like a product, post or comment, please take those things into a private message with the page owner or fan. Whenever you post something, fans take that into account of your business image. You can have amazing products, great prices and share everywhere possible. But from personal experience I can tell you that just ONE wrong comment (sarcasm or joking gone wrong, expressing anger, etc) can RUIN your image.

Another thing that can ruin your business image is the way that you present yourself on other pages. If you wouldn’t want another page doing something to you, don’t do it to them. An example of this I have seen recently: Tagging a business page on another business’s photo with the note “I make/do something similar”. How mad would you be if someone did this to you? I know I would be LIVID!! That’s like going to a craft fair, setting up your booth next to someone who makes similar products and then telling all of their customer, “Come over here and get it cheaper/better/in more options/etc.” If a customer sees someone tag their business on another business’s photo, or acting like that at an in-person event, it can potentially be FATAL to that person’s business. Many customers see it as underhanded and disrespectful. And we all know that the participants on HTLA are neither of those things!!!

We are a loving, sharing community that HELPS others in a non-selfish way! That’s why we suggest that you do NOT tag your page on posts by another page when you are hiking. Leave a comment of niceness on their posts and wares, and then tag your page on the WALL. I am not trying to tell anyone how to run their business! Only to think before you post!!! These tips go for sites other than Facebook as well: websites, blogs, etc!!!!

Tuesday, January 14, 2014

Chicken Fail

So I had been enjoying today. I even cooked dinner to end it on a good note. Unfortunately, I apparently suck at cooking. L My presentation was good:


But we found out that I can’t cook fried chicken all the way through to save my life. L So I am sorry to say that my creative juices have evaporated for the evening after that fail. Luckily, Nana took over and cooked the rest… No one got sick at least and that is the important thing! I will need to have her teach me again. Or watch me and tell me what I’m doing wrong. 

Monday, January 13, 2014

Super Soft Playdough With Only 2 Ingredients

So today I have decided to do something a bit different. I have told you about the Critter Kids. Well, I wanted to share a project with you that I planned to make with them this week! I will post pictures and a review afterwards. :) I got this idea from http://pagingfunmums.com/2013/11/01/soft-as-a-cloud-playdoughusing-only-2-ingredients/


They say that this is only 2 ingredients, but to get colored playdough, it actually takes 3:

1 part conditioner

2 parts corn flour/corn starch

Food coloring (optional)


And yes, they mean actual hair conditioner! They used HomeBrand Everday Conditioner in Apple Splash scent. Wonder if you end up with scented playdough? That would be really cool!

Here are their steps:



Step 1

Pour your conditioner into a bowl (we used a home brand conditioner – note that not all conditioners are of the same consistency so you may need to add a little more or a little less corn flour to get the right consistency for you)

Step 2

Pour in the corn flour

Step 3

Give the mixture a good stir

Step 4 (optional)

Add a few drops of food colouring

Step 5

Mix well using your hands. This part smells delicious!

Step 6

Have FUN moulding, squishing, shaping and playing with your new Playdough!



*Please note, this recipe is not able to be digested, so please ensure the kids keep it out of their mouth.

Sunday, January 12, 2014

Being My Own Boss

Today I’ll fill you in on the two businesses that I personally own and run. I started them both from scratch, as you will see. J I hope that I can entertain and inspire you to accomplish your dreams!

This is my main personal business. I hand sew blankets, pillows, and pillow cases. I also do no-sew blankets and scarves modeled after them. I will be expanding the line to include sleep pants as well once I get a few patterns. I will hand sew these as well. I fell in love with making blankets in 7th grade. But I had so much other stuff going on, that I let my love of crafting get pushed to the very back of the filing cabinet that is my mind. Then, while I was pregnant with Critter Girl, I re-discovered my love of making things. So I started making little things here and there. After Critter Girl was born, I started in on bigger things. I made Nana a matching blanket and pillow for her couch, showed it off on Facebook and Bedtime By Tink exploded from there. J I am constantly working on exploring new products and things to improve the business. So any feedback would be greatly appreciated!!!




Pit Bull Momma Rescue (https://www.facebook.com/pitbullmommarescue)
I started PBMR in 2008 while living in Oklahoma. The over-population, the dog fighting and so many other factors contributed to me starting this business. It is a non-profit, so please don’t think that I help these animals so I can make money. I actually saw a comment on another blog this morning that was accusing rescue groups of just trying to make money and that once all the homeless animals were placed, we would begin breeding more so that we could stay in business. Ugh. Some people. But I am a not for profit business. Every donation that comes my way is either put towards any rescue dog(s) in my care, or donated to the local Humane Society or to Villalobos Rescue Center to help their rescue dogs.  I have a vision of turning PBMR into a rescue similar to VRC. Tia Torres is an amazing woman and what she does there is beyond amazing. I am hoping that I can one day build my rescue facility to at least half the size of hers, if not to the same size. It is sad to think that she has 200+ dogs in her facility and it hasn’t even scratched the surface of the abused, neglected and/or homeless pet problem. L I loved one of her quotes so much that it’s the first thing you see on my page:

At PBMR, I take in any unwanted bully breed or mix of bully breed. “Pit Bull” is not a breed; it is simply a way to describe any dog that has the characteristics of three main breeds: American Pit Bull Terrier, American Staffordshire Terrier and Staffordshire Bull Terrier. There are also other breeds that are similar to these. The breeds as a whole with the same physical characteristics are classified as “bully breeds”.  I have decided to start an educational segment on the PBMR Facebook page. I started it off today trying to bring awareness to puppy mills. Valentine’s Day is coming up and, for whatever reason, puppies seem to be a big Valentine’s Day present. Below is the first of the educational series posts:


I hope that you have enjoyed learning about the different roles that I play online and I look forward to hearing from you!!!

Facebook Admin

Today is Sunday and the Little Critter is with his Ninny. I miss him when he is gone. I have no idea of what to do without him. So I decided to take the time without him and get some blogging done. I have mentioned before that I admin on some Facebook pages, as well as running my own businesses. I figured now would be a great time to touch base on those; Especially as I am gearing up towards a few Valentine’s Day things on a few of them. This will be a two part post. Today I will cover the pages I admin on and tomorrow I will cover my businesses.

First, the definition of "Admin". This is the best definition and description I could find and is much better said than I could have done:

"On Facebook, an administrator, or admin, is someone who oversees a group page. When you see the "Make Admin" button, that means that you have created a group or you are an admin for a group, and you can select other people to become admins as well. An admin has access to several functions that a normal group member is unable to access. As an administrator, you have access to the entire group. You are responsible for adding new members, approving requests, deleting content or members, and monitoring action within your group. An admin is also able to change the name and photos associated with the group, in addition to the content found within the group. Only admins can add, delete and ban members or content. You may choose to have multiple administrators for your group, particularly if you need to split the responsibility of monitoring the group or if your group is very large. By having more than one admin, you give the responsibilities of group monitoring, accepting and deleting members, and other administrative functions to another person so that an additional person can help you manage your group."  (http://www.ehow.com/info_8515777_make-admin-mean-facebook.html)


Sisterhood (https://www.facebook.com/pages/Sisterhood/737576146270684)
The first page that I admin on is called Sisterhood. “Want to join our Sisterhood? Well come on in, grab a cup of coffee and lets chat. We're here for you.” We are just what the name portrays. A sisterhood of
women (and actually a few men) spread out not only across the country, but across the world. We play games and ask questions; share inspirational pictures and motivational quotes; we are there for each other when needed and provide a listening ear, as well as a swift dose of bluntness when needed. Something someone once said came to mind as I wrote that. “I don’t sugar-coat things. This isn’t Willy Wonka’s Chocolate Factory.” That is exactly how we are. Our admin group of 7 and our fan group of 3,409 are all sweet as can be. But we don’t hold back. Have you ever met siblings that did? Siblings are usually more blunt and honest with you than any other person in the world. And we are brothers and sisters, no matter our parentage or location. It doesn’t matter that 99% of us have never met face-to-face. We’re still family.

Hike Those Likes America (https://www.facebook.com/HikeThoseLikesAmerica)
The second page I admin on, I am actually new to. It is called Hike Those Likes America and that is only part of what we do. We're here to help you share & sell AMERICAN wares through your networking skills so as to reach a wider audience for you business page. Most of the businesses that use our page are crafty
businesses (I use it myself for one of my businesses I’m going to tell you about in my next post), but our
community is open to small businesses of all creeds, not just crafters. We like for you to use our page to SHARE your wares, SHARE your events, SHARE your special offers on our wall WHENEVER & AS MUCH as you wish to! We are a community looking out for one another, helping to bring awareness to all small businesses as well as helping small businesses succeed with tips, tricks, encouraging posts and pictures. We welcome YOU to ask or lend advice and/or support, and to motivate & encourage one another, as this is networking at its best. We encourage you to use our wall as an extension of your own and to use our many different resources to improve your sales, exposure, and business in general. Pictured is a recent post on the page.

Critter Girl's Reward Chart

So as you know, I am a mother of two. My daughter, Critter Girl, spends every other weekend (Thursday through Tuesday) with her daddy and I have my son, the Little Critter, 6 days a week because he spends every Sunday with his Ninny. I have been struggling with Critter Girl not wanting to listen for, well, her whole life, honestly. Yes I realize that she’s not quite 4 yet (April 29) and that children that age are known for not listening. But with the Little Critter being 7 months old now, I just can’t handle the not listening. So I devised this reward chart and we implemented it the first week of 2014. So far, we have been doing an AMAZING job. Her daddy dislikes the idea and tells me that I am a drill sergeant for expecting so much from her. But he only sees a list of tasks, not what they actually are.

The blue tasks are daily required tasks (except the one that is marked weekly), the green are the preferred tasks (habits I hope she will get into) and the pink ones are the bonus tasks worth double points because they are things we have been struggling with. Although since we started the chart, they seem to be the things that she nails most often…  But even though she is only 3 ½, I feel these are things that she should be doing on a regular basis. For every completed task, we get a sticker. We total the points at the end of each day and again at the end of the week.

The required daily tasks are feeding and watering her rabbit (more on that another day), brushing her hair or getting it done for her, brushing her teeth, picking up her toys and eating meals without drama. Her weekly required task is to clean out her rabbit cage.

There are a few things here I need to clarify. First one is the “I made my own breakfast” task. I am not asking her to COOK her own breakfast. But she is capable of pouring her own cereal and sugar (she doesn’t use milk) or grabbing a banana and peeling it herself. The second one is the “I read to my brother” task. This is not so much something we have an issue with, as much a way to teach her to respect books. She likes to rip the pages out and this gives her something to do with the books other than destroy them. She can’t read so playing with books alone was boring for her, whereas making up stories to go with the pictures for her brother is much more entertaining. J

We take the totaled points each day and add them to her Reward Bank under the “Deposit’ column, as well as any bonus amounts. We then add any fines or penalties to the “Withdrawal” column. I put the description of the transaction in the “Description” column. Her descriptions are generally one of 4: “Chart (# reg & # bonus)”, “Bonus [Insert reason for bonus points]”, “[Reason for withdrawal such as Yelling, Not listening, etc.]”, "Daddy's House {For the days she is with him}" or, for the days that I forget to add stickers/points until AFTER we’ve done her Reward Bank “+# Chart (# reg & # bonus)”. Then we total the balance of the account and place that in… where else, but the “Balance” column.



You are probably wondering what we do with her points once she has them. Well, we sat down one day and came up with a list of Rewards and then I decided on the point values for each, making them attainable, but also a challenge. I also came up with a list of Fines, or things that would lose her points. I chose these things based off of things that we currently are struggling with. You can find them in the chart to the right. So far, the only things she has not lost points for are not sharing, hitting and destroying property.

 So far our results have been phenomenal. She has begun doing quite a few of the tasks on her own without being asked. Here’s one example: She gets out of bed, makes her bed, gets dressed and then goes and puts her PJs in Nana’s dirty hamster (dirty clothes hamper. LOL). No one is awake at this time, normally. She will go in and wake up Nana on her way to the hamster. So no one is telling her to do these things. But she knows she gets stickers for each completed task and is very quick to remind me once she wakes me up as well. J Her behavior has improved greatly in just the two weeks since we have started this! It’s amazing!!!


I have never known anyone else to use a system like this, so I would definitely love to get some feedback on it!! All comments, questions and thoughts are welcome!!!

Saturday, January 11, 2014

Live Luv Create

Today I would like to show off some picture quotes that I have been creating using www.liveluvcreate.com. I mean, who doesn't enjoy seeing pretty scenery and inspirational quotes? If you like what you see, feel free to copy and paste the pictures!

Liveluvcreate makes creating picture quotes extremely simple! You choose your layout, then your background picture(s), then type, format and position your text, pick your effects and click create. Viola! Almost instant picture quote!



Friday, January 10, 2014

Top 5 Favorite Blogs

Today I have decided to share some of my favorite blogs. I have included links to a few posts from each blog as well as the main web address. They’re kind of an eclectic mix, but I hope that you learn to enjoy them as much as I do!

1. The Prairie Homestead (http://www.theprairiehomestead.com/)
I absolutely LOVE this blog! I was born in the wrong era. Instead of being born in the 1980’s I should have been born in the 1780’s. I love doing things the old way. I am so against the convenience trends of today that it isn’t funny, but more on that another day. This site lives up to their tag line, “Cultivating old-fashioned skills in a modern world”. The woman that runs this page lives on a homestead herself, so she knows what she’s talking about. And she’s not trying to get everyone to move to the country, either. She’s really big on stressing the fact that you can homestead wherever you are, be it in a 3rd floor apartment or a 4 bedroom house on Main Street or a farm out in the middle of nowhere. She lays this out in her own words in her Start Here! post. She touches on some skills that she thinks are important to learn, such as knowing how to clean, dress, stitch/staple a wound in the event of an emergency, learn how to cut, bale, and stack hay (this is an AMAZING workout, for all you fitness minded folks out there!), grow a windowsill herb garden, and many, many more.

2. Michelle Shaeffer (http://michelleshaeffer.com/)
I love this blog because of the useful information that she shares. As the tagline says, “Where smart entrepreneurs learn to blog for business”. She includes posts on how to start a blog, serious business bloggers, increasing blog traffic, getting your blog noticed, and how to make money with your blog. When you are a business blogger, all of these things come in handy! And even for those like me, the one whose blog is not connected to a business, her tips and tricks are still really useful! I personally love the post on blog colors and if you are designing ANYTHING, be it a website, a room, a letterhead, anything with colors, I would highly suggest that you check out this post! And for those of you with a blog of your own, I would highly recommend checking out 5 1/2 Reasons to Jump Into the Ultimate Blog Challenge. If you haven’t heard of the Ultimate Blog Challenge before, you can find information on it here.

3. Veronica Roth (http://veronicaroth.com/)
I just recently found this blog, but I love to read through it. I especially love that I have became friends with the author. We have similar tastes and this definitely comes in handy. The post that introduced me to Miss Veronica was Shopping for prezzies for the Clover. I have never been on a virtual tour of a thrift shop before, but I absolutely loved it! J Upon further exploration of the site, I found quite a few picture tours, which I am also absolutely in love with! I am terrified of planes and boats, so I can’t go visit many places outside of the US. And honestly, I don’t have the money to visit places inside the US. So picture tours definitely rank right up there on my list of favorite things to read. J

4. New Life on a Homestead (http://newlifeonahomestead.com/)
This is another homesteading site. In case you hadn’t figured it out, this is a big interest of mine! I love this blog for all of the helpful hints that they have included, as well as just the common sense things. When is the best time to clean so that you can start over with a clean slate? Not in the middle of Spring, but at the New Year. Even if you do not set resolutions, it is still a good idea to set goals. I also love that she teamed up with Jill from The Prairie Homestead, to create Barn Hop Mondays. Here is their message: “Have you written anything “homesteading” on your blog recently? If so, we’d love to have you link up below! Even if you don’t have a blog, we always welcome your comments!” They have dedicated Mondays as the day to network homesteading related posts into one place. It makes it very easy then to navigate through and find many different blogs on the same topics.

5. The Humbled Homemaker (http://thehumbledhomemaker.com/)
This is another one that is similar in content. “Grace-Filled, Natural Living”. The post that caught my eye was about not being able to afford Organic food but wanting to feed your family in a healthy manner. Her no –nonsense, no excuses, straight to the point form of writing caught and took hold. I loved how she tells it just like it is. Yes Organic is healthier. But when you’re struggling for money, you can’t afford to pay double for food just because it was grown all natural. I was lucky enough to find a post that compiled 10 of her posts from 2013, so you get a little bonus with this one. J I hope that you will take the time to check them out!! I’ve also included one of her recipe posts, in the hopes that I can whet your appetite enough to check out the rest of them!


Well there you have it. My Top 5 Favorite Blogs! I hope that you will take the time to surf through each one and if you find something you like, be sure to let the author know who sent you! If you like what you see, please come back and tell me! I love knowing when I can help others connect!

Tuesday, January 7, 2014

Unanswered Prayers

I wanted to give ya'll a taste of my book that I am writing. So here is the first chapter. I will post the other chapters in other posts if I get enough responses. I hope that you enjoy it and I welcome any and all feedback on it! If you love it, tell me. If you hate it, tell me. Only thing I ask, is that either way, you tell me WHY you feel that way about it.


Chapter One

“I can’t.”

The sting of rejection was sharp, like a knife. Lorelei reacted to it instantly. Like a cobra, she coiled herself then struck; her words just as venomous as the cobra’s bite.

“Liar. You won’t. There’s a difference.”

Turning to go, she let out a long sigh. Defeatedly she told him, “You say you won’t be with me because you know yourself too well and you’ll always leave.” Lorelei angrily spun back around to face him. “Do you think what you are doing is any better? Which do you think hurts worse?” Her anger sputtered out as the tears came to her eyes and her voice broke. “If you loved me like you say you do, you wouldn’t leave. But I’m not going to fight with you. I’m letting you go.” She shook her head sadly. “I do it every damn time you want her and I’ve loved you through it all. That will never change. I’ll wait for you… no matter how many times you leave.” The last she said quietly, as if she were speaking only to herself. She gave him one last heartbroken look then turned and walked out, quietly closing the door behind her.

The rest was up to him.



She’d dreamed of him again. She’d been dreaming of him for sixteen years. She stayed in bed, holding his image in her head as long as she could. As the image faded from her mind, she felt the familiar sting of tears. Shoving all thoughts of him aside, she quickly got out of bed, determined to not shed any tears for lost yesterdays. Pulling her robe on over her pajamas, Lorelei made her way through the dark. She quietly descended the stairs.

Starting a pot of coffee, she leaned against the counter, trying to think of anything but the past. She failed, as she knew she would. Once the pot was full enough, she poured a cup of coffee, returned the pot to the burner and made her way out to the porch to watch the sun rise. She sat in one of the two wooden rockers that flanked a small wooden table, pulling her feet up under her. She held the steaming mug in her hands and watched as the sky turned from black to purple to red; letting her mind wonder back over her dream. That argument was the last time she had seen her kids’ father. She had long ago made peace with the knowledge that he wasn’t returning. And so Lorelei, her two children and her parents had decided to move away and start a new life.

It was a well-known fact in Lorelei’s hometown that her children had been born out of wedlock and that their father had ran off with another woman. Wanting to protect her children from this knowledge for as long as possible, Lorelei and her parents had moved to New Hope, Nevada. They told anyone who asked that her husband had been killed in a car wreck before she could tell him she was pregnant.

In reality, she hadn’t seen Clay in almost sixteen years. He had run off with some woman he’d met at a bar. He had been bouncing back and forth between Lorelei and Cheryl for over a year before he left with her, but it still rankled. She had tried so hard to make their relationship work. They had been together for almost three years before he met Cheryl. In her heart, she had still been with him for the next year even though he had only been with her part-time. The argument in her dream was the night before Clay and Cheryl skipped town. Again.

And almost two months later, Lorelei found out that she was pregnant. Almost four months pregnant. With twins. She had no idea what to do. But she did what she always did; she survived. And six weeks after the twins had been born, Lorelei and her folks packed up everything they owned and moved to New Hope with the hope that they could start over.

Lorelei couldn’t understand why she was still dreaming about him after all these years. She hadn’t seen the man since 1990 and here it was, 2006. And it wasn’t like she was still pining over him. She had met a wonderful man three years ago and they had been seeing each other exclusively since.

Shaking her head to bring herself back to the present, Lorelei finished her coffee and went back inside to get ready for the day. She loved living on the ranch, even if it did mean her day started at dawn every day, Sunday through Saturday. But she wouldn’t change it for the world.



“Hello, gorgeous.”

Lorelei smiled as she heard Samuel’s voice. She always looked forward to seeing him. She straightened from checking Dream, one of her pregnant mares. “Hello yourself, handsome.”

She quickly moved out of the stall and slid the bolt to lock the gate. Sam pulled her into his arms and gave her a hungry kiss. “How is she doing?” he asked, once they had come up for air.

Turning so she was facing the stall with Sam’s arms around her, Lorelei leaned her head back against his chest. “She’s doing well. I expect her to drop her foal within the next three days. There’s two more I’m expecting to foal in the next week. And that’s just the beginning babies of the year. Chris said he counted twenty-five pregnant mares in Chief’s band this year. Not too bad for his second year with his own herd. This mare is one of the two that are carrying Steel’s foals. And the other mare I’m watching is the one carrying Dynamite’s. I don’t expect her to foal for another couple months but I’m keeping a close eye on her since she’s had trouble with her last two foals.” Lorelei smiled up at him. “I bet you can’t wait to see how your two new stallions do. As gorgeous as they are, they’re bound to throw gorgeous foals. Given their bloodlines, you know these foals are bound to be top performers.”

Sam hid his amused smile in her sable hair. Lorelei was always trying to reassure him about his choice to cross his Bar 7 stallions with her Triple T mares. He had known of the Triple T ranch for about six years now. And he’d kept a close eye on the foals that had come off the ranch. Most of them were either top money winners or they produced top money winners. It had been his attention on the ranch that had allowed him to meet Ms. Lorelei Callahan three years ago.

When the Triple T had first started nine years ago, Lorelei had solely boarded and trained other people’s horses. It wasn’t until about five years ago back that she’d began breeding Quarter Horses and raising Hereford cattle. But she didn’t quit training horses for folks. She just began including her own stock in her training programs.

Sam had wound up with a half wild filly that he needed broke and, as he had his own business to run, Sam didn’t have the time to train her himself. So he had brought her to the Triple T. To Lorelei. That visit led to many more over the next few weeks. Lorelei was well aware of the Bar 7 and the outstanding bloodlines Sam had.

She asked Sam to go with her whenever she went to look at new stock. Gradually, they began going to dinners and spending significantly more time together. Sam came to care for not only Lorelei, but her children as well. And last year, he had asked Lorelei to marry him. She had turned him down, saying she wasn’t ready to take that final leap yet. So Sam had backed off and they had continued to see each other romantically and grow their businesses together.

Sam ran a select breeding program. He had multiple stallions that he bred to his own mares as well as outside mares, for a fee. He kept mares separated in different pastures according to age and state of pregnancy. His stallions he kept separated as well, each one in their own enclosure to discourage fights. When he was ready to breed, he would separate each of the mares he had carefully chosen and pen them one at a time with the stallion he had chosen, usually for around three days. This allowed him to control not only the mixing of bloodlines, but also the number of foals each spring.

Lorelei on the other hand, used a range breeding approach like the ranches of old. She ran a herd of about thirty mares on a large piece of fenced land and had one stallion to take care of them, much like the way the wild mustangs had lived. She carefully chose which mares to include in that herd, but once she added them, she never removed them unless circumstances forced her to. They brought the herd in each fall and separated all the foals, then released the herd again. This guaranteed the Triple T well-bred stock, but also no guarantee as to the number of foals each year.

Sam, with the help of Lorelei’s business partner daughter Aimee, had convinced her to keep a few of their best mares at the barn after last fall’s roundup. These they had bred to two of his stallions with the hopes of bringing new blood into the Triple T herd once the foals were old enough. The Bar 7 and Triple T were both known for outstanding bloodlines as well as for producing top performers on the national show circuit. By mixing their top performing bloodlines, they were aiming for at least one champion roper out of one of the crossings.

Of course, Sam mused to himself, he also liked the idea that the more entwined their businesses became, the faster they could make the final merger of their private lives as well. He fully intended to ask Lorelei to marry him again, after the fall round up was over and her life settled down some.

All year she stressed over finding buyers for her foals, trying to estimate how many foals she would have. She also had to decide which foals to keep and train versus which ones to sell after they were weaned. Sam didn’t understand how she could still enjoy all the stress after doing it for the last four years.

He enjoyed the relative ease in which he conducted his farm. With his breeding program, he made sure that he had no more than five foals by each stallion each spring. Majority of the time he would sell all the colts as soon as they were weaned, unless he happened to get an exceptional one that he wanted to keep and breed.

The fillies were his hardest decisions. He never bred a daughter back to her father, so he kept a rotating number of mares and fillies. Since he waited until a mare was four years old to breed her, he had to make sure that he had enough breed-able mares to get him through each season. He would breed each mare once to a different available stallion every year to see what offspring they would produce. If he found a combination he liked, he kept that mare only for that stallion. If he didn’t find a stallion that he liked her paired with, after four years the mare was sold.

Sam kissed the top of Lorelei’s head again before they headed out to the corral to see how Aimee, Lorelei’s daughter, was doing with the horse she was training. They watched her for a few moments, both with arms resting on the top fence rail and a booted foot on the bottom rail. As they watched, Sam decided on something he had been debating on for a few weeks.

“You know Aimee wants to focus on business classes once she starts high school this fall, right?” He glanced over at Lorelei before turning back to the horse and young woman in the corral. “What would you think of her picking up a few ranch business type classes at the local community college as well? Before you say no, hear out my idea.”

Lorelei closed her mouth, resisted the urge to tell him that she thought college was too much for a freshman in high school, and went back to watching Aimee.

“I’m willing to pay for one class each fall and one class each spring. She’ll have summers off from studying. But there will be some stipulations. Her GPA is to remain 3.0 or higher at both schools. And I’m going to have her analyze my farm and see where we can improve. For the time that she spends at my place, she will earn a ten dollar an hour consultation fee. I’m leaving it up to you, as her mother, whether she keeps those wages to spend as she likes, or to apply them toward her school costs.” Sam pushed away from the fence, his brown eyes searching her blue ones. “At least say you will think it over before you veto it. I think she could benefit from it. And if she consults for the Bar 7, I might be able to get her a few jobs at other stables.”

Lorelei looked back toward her daughter. She was going to be fifteen in June. That was three months away. They could do some looking into it at least. See what schedule they could arrange. Lord knew the girl already had a head for business. It had been her ideas that had enabled them to go from just training other people’s horses to raising their own. And at the time, she’d been nine years old! “Have you said anything to her yet?”

Sam debated a moment. “It was her idea. She came to me a few weeks ago asking about looking over the farm, seeing if she could devise any new procedures to save or make more money. She asked if I would be willing to pay her, because she was interested in attending college courses on the subject and was going to use her pay to cover the tuition and books. Said it was something she wanted to do without you having to pay for it.” Sam smiled and shook his head. “It was her independence that got me. I told her I would think it over and get back to her. She probably thinks I forgot by now.”

They were standing near the gate of the corral and Aimee had wrapped up her training session. As she began walking toward them, Lorelei pushed off the fence, turned and took a few steps toward the barn, then turned back to Sam who now had his broad back against the fence. “Let me look into it some and we’ll go over the details later. You can tell her the surprise on her birthday.” With a conspirator’s smile toward Sam, she turned and headed back to the barn to finish her daily chores before starting in on her own training projects of the day.

10 Random Things About Me

10. I have been married once and it lasted for 3 months.

9. I have an obsession with pit bulls.
My Baby Boy Cane
8. I started college in 2006, dropped out in 2007. I went back in 2009, dropped out in 2010. I started a new college in 2013 and am still attending.

7. I have 7 angel babies and 2 living ones.

6. I love to read.

5. I am currently writing a romance novel.

4. I was in an abusive relationship for 2 years.

3. I suffered from Postpartum Depression with both of my kids.

2. I have been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder.

1. My best friend is also my fiancé.

Sunday, January 5, 2014

Past, Present, Future

So one of the things I LOVE to do is answer questions. If I think that my answer will help or inspire others, then I love it even more. So I have found some questions today that I hope will allow me to answer in a way that will help or inspire at least one person today. I would love to know in the comments if I was successful!

Did you get into trouble when you were younger? What was the worst thing you did? Of course I did. What kid DOESN'T get into trouble? The worst thing that I did when I was under 18 was deciding to skip school and go steal stuff with a couple friends. We got caught. Cops were involved. My mother got involved. L The second worst thing I did was when I was 19 and that was being at the wrong place at the wrong time. Took a friend to the mall with me to turn in applications and she decided to start shoplifting. Now remember, I had gotten caught for that once already and wasn't dumb enough to do it again. Anyway, I had asked her to carry my bag at one point (I was into the whole messenger bag craze and it had gotten heavy). What I DIDN'T know was that she had been stealing things and putting them in my bag while she had it. Security at one of the stores saw her on the cameras and stopped us after we left the store. Since there was stolen merchandise in my bag, I went down with her. Since I couldn't prove that I hadn't been stealing anything, I got the same charge she did: Class A Misdemeanor for Criminal Conversion (which, oddly enough, is just a fancy way of saying borrowing WITH intent to return but WITHOUT the owner’s knowledge… Is anyone else as confused as I am?). This happened back in 2008. I am STILL paying the price for that mistake, 6 years later. L Moral of the story: Pick your friends wisely. You ARE guilty by association. And criminal records really DO cause you problems in the real world.

If you could do anything now, what would you do? Why? I wouldn't have a traditional 9 to 5 job, that’s for sure. If I had the financial stability to do anything I wanted, I would start a farm. Raise my own food: cattle for beef and milk, pigs for meat, chickens for meat and eggs, goats for milk, rabbits for meat and of course all of them for fertilizer. Raise horses to do the labor instead of machinery and also to generate a second income (as I would with all of the animals). Use the fertilizer on my garden so that I could grow my own vegetables and some fruits, as well as on the fields were I would grow feed for the animals as well as grains for the humans so that we could make our own bread and such. I would hope to have a wooded area so that we could supplement our diets with wild plants and wildlife, as well as a source of fresh water (such as a lake/pond/stream/etc) so that we could also include fish, turtle, and anything else we could find into our diets. I would live in a log cabin and do as much of our own labor as possible. No buying furniture from commercial stores, I’d learn to make it. No big shopping trips because I would learn how to sew my own clothes and necessary cloth items, we’d be growing our own food so no grocery trips, I would like to have some form of alternative energy and heat (solar/wind/water/etc) so no big expensive electronics. We wouldn't have a whole lot of money, but that’s okay. We wouldn't have to rely on an outside job, so my criminal record wouldn't be AS much of a problem. And we wouldn't have to worry about keeping up with the Jones'. Not that I have ever met those people, but from what I've heard, they have EVERYTHING! J I don’t need everything. I just need my family.

What are your dreams for your children? My dreams for my children are pretty simple, really. I hope that they will find happiness, be successful according to their own standards, and appreciate the value of a dollar as well as the value of family and hard work. I hope that they will appreciate the things that come easily and appreciate the things that come with more difficultly even more. I hope that they will fall in love (be it with someone of the same sex, different sex, same age range, significant age difference, doesn't matter as long as they are happy). I hope that they will excel at least at one thing. Hopefully, it is a good thing and not something illegal or harmful.

Saturday, January 4, 2014

Step-Parent Tribute

There are very few men that earn my respect. My dad is one of them. My step-dad, even though he was a complete asshole and abusive, had my respect for a short period. He still does to an extent, because I know what he can do. Maybe that is fear… Idk. The third male that has gained my respect is my fiancé, Glenn. He will be 23 March 1, 2014. How many men do you know in their 30's and 40's that would willingly step up and care for another man’s child? What about in their late 20's? He is not even 23 and yet he has willingly stepped up to raise a child that is not his. To me, any man that is willing to step up and raise a child that is not their own, deserves respect. Any woman that would do the same also deserves respect. There are many children in today’s society that are the way they are because of a step-parent’s influence. Instead of running the streets, getting in trouble, rebelling against a single parent, the kids are making something of themselves. They aren't stuck in daycare day in and day out so their parent can work. They learn what a loving home is like. I am not saying that every blended family is happy and loving. We all know that there are horror stories out there. Cinderella comes to mind… I don’t care if that is a fairy tale, it illustrates the point. And I am not in any way saying that single parents cannot raise their children successfully on their own! I am merely saying that stepparents play an important role and are deserving of respect. When the biological parent walks out, the stepparent steps up and takes on those responsibilities that technically aren't theirs.

The stepparent for my children is my fiancé. He willingly stepped up to take care of me and my unborn child when my now ex-husband abandoned us. He continues to this day to raise that baby boy as his own. And his biological donor still continues to this day to have absolutely nothing to do with him. Glenn claims that baby as his son. His family claims that baby as his son. As far as my daughter and I are concerned, he is Glenn’s son. I thank the Lord every day for bringing Glenn into our lives when he did. Very few younger men want to be with a woman with one child, let alone two children. And even less want to get into a long-term relationship with a pregnant woman. He did both. He loves my daughter as his own, even though her daddy is very much in her life. He just acts as a secondary dad for her for those times when her dad is not around. He helps me to be a better mother to her. He is amazing with our son in every way. And I know that he would put his life on the line for either one of our kids.

Glenn isn't the first personal experience I have had with step-dads though. My dad is technically my step-dad. He stepped in and adopted me after my biological donor signed away his parental rights. And that man is the best dad that a girl could ask for. He opened up so many doors that would have stayed closed if he hadn't entered my life. He did so many things for me that he didn't have to. I know that I am a better person for having him in my life.

My step-dad, the one that came after my dad, was a complete asshole. He was mentally, emotionally and verbally abusive. So I guess I can say that Cinderella isn't the only evil stepparent story I can think of. He was ex-military and expected everyone to perform to his standards. When we failed to meet his standards, he started in with the name calling, degrading us, etc. He was harder on me than anyone else had ever been. And even though he was an abusive prick, I still hear his voice in the back of my head. Maybe not daily anymore, but I definitely still hear it enough to matter. Even though he’s no longer physically in our lives, he will always be in my head. He had a big hand in making me into the woman I am today. He held me to higher standards than anyone else. And now I hold myself to high standards as well. Sometimes that is a bad thing. Like when I freak out about not getting a 100% in a college class, or not bowling a perfect game (Monday night bowling league was his thing and he drilled bowling techniques into my youngest stepsister, my mom and me.) or when I get upset with myself for making silly mistakes. But I still know that he had a big part in making me into the woman that I am today and that if it hadn't been for him, I would have gone a very different path.

I just want to say a big thank you to all the stepparents out there. As a stepchild, I want to let you know that all of your efforts are appreciated and mean a lot! Thank you for stepping up where other people stepped out!!!


My Thoughts on Hot Tea Month

So January is Hot Tea Month. Did you know that? I sure didn’t. But I’m glad to see a month dedicated to my favorite beverage. My favorite thing to do before bed is to make me a cup of hot tea. My mood decides what kind of tea I drink. Lately, I have been drinking Bigelow Chamomile tea to relax. Herbal tea is definitely an acquired taste. It took me quite a few tries before I learned to like it. Now it is to the point that I keep a box of each of my favorite teas at the places where I spend most of my time. Included in those teas are my Chamomile and my “Sweet Dreams” tea both by Bigelow. I used to drink the Celestial Seasonings brand teas. And in fact, my 3 year old and 7 month old still do drink the Celestial Seasonings “Sleepytime Kids” tea. It is great at helping them to relax and unwind at the end of the day. It is grape flavored, so neither one realizes that they are drinking an herbal tea. It is also caffeine free with extra Vitamin C. So not only does it help them get a better night’s sleep, it also helps to boost their immune system. Like the kids, I also enjoy a cup of warm nighttime tea as well. I have learned that if I make it all the way through a cup of “Sweet Dreams” then it is highly likely that I will sleep through the entire night with no interruptions. It is very rare that I manage to make it through an entire cup before falling asleep, however. That tells me that it is an amazing tea! Who needs manufactured sleeping pills with who knows what in them when I can just drink a cup of herbal tea?

I think that January being Hot Tea month is amazing. It is the perfect weather for enjoying a cup of hot tea, no matter what brand or flavor you drink. Whether it is herbal or not, a cup of hot tea will still make you feel amazing when you come in out of the cold. Hot tea is also amazing for sore throats. Add a bit of honey to coat your throat and you’ll feel amazing. J



Thursday, January 2, 2014

Keep Going!

So things just got interesting. I got early access to my next college course. I now get to add that to my 4 Facebook pages, 2 kids, fiancé, blog, housework, animals, job search and insatiable hunger for learning things online. It looks like I am going to have to learn better stress and time management skills! But I KNOW I can do it and I’m gonna prove to everyone else what I already know!! In honor of this, here is a picture quote to inspire us all!!!




Wednesday, January 1, 2014

Facebook

Being a mommy of two definitely has its ups and downs. And being a college student has the same. Being engaged is harder than hell. Wanna know what makes it all bearable and yet at the same time, harder? FACEBOOK! I swear that damn site should be considered a drug. Today’s post is going to be awful short thanks to Facebook distracting me until I was too tired to really focus. I have successfully broke myself from the games on Facebook, but I haven’t broke myself of stalking my news feed or of taking a break from the 3 community pages I now run myself and the one page that I help run.

Facebook is a lot like prison, from what I’ve heard. You do a lot of watching. You write on walls. Wait for someone to send you a letter and hope that the wrong person doesn’t poke you. It is also boring as hell. But like prison for some people, it’s impossible to quit. So you treat it like the refrigerator. You know there ain’t shit on ther or in there, but you still open the door every twenty minutes just to stare at the same old shit. So for tonight, I am taking a break from Facebook so that I can focus more on my kids and my other interests. I love that for my groups I can schedule posts as far as a year in advance! So I scheduled out things for tomorrow for 3 of the pages and the only one that is left I will schedule in the morning. And then I will have time to come back here and really give my attention to the blog. I may even add to this post. Maybe. J